“A boss creates fear; a leader confidence. A boss fixes blame; a leader corrects mistakes. A boss knows all; a leader asks questions.” – Russell H. Ewing
Ewing raises a good distinction between being a boss and being a leader. This applies just as much in the family as it does in the workplace. Do you boss your children or lead them? Do you boss your employees or lead them?
Both approaches may work — but only for a little while. No one likes to be bossed around. But do people like to be lead? If you distinguish between bossing and leading, I would answer, “Yes.” People like to be lead by those who develop their talents, care about their dreams, and are generous with appreciation.
At home or work, are you more concerned with being followed than you are about leading? Are you more comfortable being a boss because leading requires giving up control? Are you seeking to retain power (boss) or do you seek to empower those around you?
Truth is, you have a choice. Choose wisely.